October 8th Session – Are You Living on Purpose?

Are you living on purpose? How do you know? This October 8th session will walk us through identifying where we are in our purpose and next steps for living a fulfilling life! We will leave with a plan that we can use every day.  Don’t miss this one – it’s a setup for future success!

Sunday, October 8th, 2017     2:30pm – 4:30pm

@Grace Refuge Chapel: 10711 W. Outer Drive, Detroit, 48223 

What Holds Us Back? Business & Career

If our businesses are not growing, is there anything we can do? What about on our jobs? Do we have any control over getting a promotion or being paid better?  The short answer is “Yes”! The long answer is, it usually doesn’t happen by itself. There are steps we can take to improve the odds and to put ourselves in position for increase.  Unfortunately, we may be doing things that ruin our chances for better businesses and better pay – and we sometimes have no idea…

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Red Flags: Dating and Relationships

Nobody wants to be stuck in a miserable relationship – especially an abusive one.  No little girl dreams of being with a man who puts her down, tries to control her, or thinks about his own needs most of the time.  No woman wants to be pregnant by a man she thought loved her and find out before the baby is even born that he’s been “loving” somebody else. No young lady wants to have little kids that she has to raise by herself because her boyfriend/fiance/husband got caught doing something illegal and is now dead or in jail.  Nobody wants to be with a man for 10 years and have their car or house repossessed because he gambled or smoked up the payments…  I know this post is starting out hard, but anyone who’s been through this knows it isn’t funny.  Anyone who’s going through this now wishes somebody had said something earlier.  Sometimes we have to start our discussions talking about what we don’t want before we can have a conversation about our “dream wedding”.  Even though it’s obvious that living hurt and confused is the last thing that a woman would want, we must be doing something wrong because too many women end up with men (or friends) who are toxic.  And while people tend to blame it on low self-esteem, I believe there’s another, less obvious reason…

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Designer Purpose – New Year 2017

Happy New Year, Ladies!!! Over this last year, we’ve had job changes (voluntary and involuntary), financial changes, a major surgery, a mold infestation, and a website that crashed four times in the last month (that was me…). At the same time, we’ve had new jobs, graduations, increased business networks, and two marriages! Joy, and Pain – Sunshine, and Rain…

At the end of the day, we all go through changes. It’s when we get together and sit around the table to talk; that’s when we realize that the ups and downs of life have happened to us all. The difference that Designer Purpose makes is that we support one another in making those lemons lemonade – and making that lemonade an enterprise! Ha! Our next session is January 15th.

This year will be even better, simply because we’re all getting better. Realizing that the only person who can move us closer to our best life is the person in the mirror, let’s get at it! Last year only mattered as much as it provided lessons to be learned. Moving ahead, I’m looking forward to celebrating another year of progress in all of our lives. I attached the words to Mary Mary’s “Go Get It” below. I think it’s fitting for where we’re going this year. Much Love, and I’ll see you soon, ~ Nicole

It’s like you’re lookin’ through a telescope you see where you gonna be
Growin’ gettin’ better you’re not the person they see
Can’t be mad at the things you’ve been through, ’cause they built your muscle
Now you’re stronger than you’ve ever been, they can’t stop your hustle

Yo faith ain’t never small that’s what brought you this far
See you got your dreams and you got your prayers and you got you God
He gonna take you there
See everybody has a season and I’ve believe this one’s your’s
‘Cause you’ve been working, waiting, this what you’ve been praying for

Go get it, go get it, go get your blessing
Go get it, go get it, go get it
It’s time yo, It’s time yo, It’s time your time

You were made to live a good life and that’s what I believe
So hit the floor say a prayer start working you got to do something

It’s alright to crawl before you walk
It’s alright to walk before you run
But if you wanna get what you never got gotta do something that you never done

You’ve been qualified
But this mercy multiplied
You cannot be denied
‘Cause you are finally certified
It’s official
Go ahead and testify
He’s gonna bless you
You gonna bless me
Now God be glorified

Read more: Mary Mary – Go Get It Lyrics | MetroLyrics


It’s hard to make good decisions without enough information. It’s hard to have good relationships if we haven’t seen many good ones. It’s hard to get and stay organized unless someone has taught us how (unless you just happen to have that “keep everything clean” disease :-)). It’s hard to stay in control of our finances if we haven’t been taught how to manage them well.  Continue reading “KNOW BETTER. DO BETTER.”

Older AND Better

Are you getting Older AND Better? The first question has already been answered for you. You’ve gotten older since you opened this post!  We can’t avoid getting older.  What we don’t want to do, though, is get older and regret everything we haven’t tried or accomplished yet. Now, that we can do something about. Continue reading “Older AND Better”

Life-Changing Decisions: BUDGETING

Most rich people live by a budget.  I had to start with that statement because sometimes when we talk about budgeting, it seems like it’s only a solution for people who are having problems with their money.  On the contrary, most people who have become successful in their personal finances got that way because they 1) decided where they wanted their money to go ahead of time, and 2) they tracked their money to make sure it got there.  Rich people can’t stand losing or wasting money.  Therefore, they make sure that it’s doing what they want it to do. But what if you don’t really want to be “rich”?… Continue reading “Life-Changing Decisions: BUDGETING”

DP November Session: November 13th, 2016

 [contact-form][contact-field label=’Name’ type=’name’ required=’1’/][contact-field label=’Email’ type=’email’ required=’1’/][contact-field label=’Website’ type=’url’/][contact-field label=’Comment’ type=’textarea’ required=’1’/][/contact-form] Have you ever done something you wish you said “NO!” to? Have people taken your kindness for weakness? What lessons have you learned from letting things go too far? We will discuss these questions and more at our next in-person session.

Location:  Grace Refuge Chapel, 10711 W. Outer Drive, Detroit, MI  48223

Time:  2:30pm until 4:30pm.  Light Refreshments will be served.

Please RSVP by commenting or replying “Going” to this post/email, so that we can have an accurate count for refreshments. This is real talk, as always! See you soon, ~ Nicole

Life-Changing Decisions: RELATIONSHIPS

The people you “hook up” with can change your life forever – literally. Now, the term “hook up” can mean different things to different people, but know this: if you don’t choose your friends wisely, the drama can take you out! Continue reading “Life-Changing Decisions: RELATIONSHIPS”

Would You Like To Save 10% on Your Purchase?

It’s so funny, I started writing this post and the next day I was in Target. All I was buying was a pack of pens, and the cashier (I’m not knocking her – she was just doing her job) asked me if I’d like to save 10% on my purchase. I politely said, “No, Thank You”. But I was thinking to myself, first of all, why do I need for you to run my credit in order to save 59 cents on some pens? (the pack of pens was only $5.99).  Secondly, the minute I get really busy and pay the bill a day late (don’t act like you haven’t done it), I get slapped with a $25 late fee. So much for saving money! Let’s take it a step further, though, and pretend the bill was $100. Then I would save $10, right?  It’s still not worth it, because the interest rates on store credit cards can be up to 28% – that’s almost $28 – and again, don’t mess around and have even one late pay… Continue reading “Would You Like To Save 10% on Your Purchase?”